Where this belief fits
Schema Domain: Overvigilance & Inhibition
Lifetrap: Unrelenting Standards
Non-Nurturing Elements™ (Precursors):
How this belief keeps repeating:
Evidence Pile
When this belief is active, the mind tends to scan for signs of inadequacy, mistakes, or perceived shortcomings, using them as evidence of personal deficiency.
Show common “proof” items
- Noticing mistakes, imperfections, or areas of struggle more than successes
- Interpreting criticism, feedback, or silence as confirmation of inadequacy
- Comparing abilities, confidence, or outcomes to others and coming up short
- Feeling behind others in competence, confidence, or emotional resilience
- Remembering past failures or embarrassing moments vividly
The nervous system stays oriented toward evaluation and self-monitoring, treating performance, approval, or outcomes as constant tests of worth.
Show common signals
- Persistent self-evaluation or internal comparison to standards or others
- Heightened sensitivity to feedback, mistakes, or perceived criticism
- Difficulty feeling settled after success or reassurance
- Interpreting effort or struggle as evidence of inadequacy
- Feeling exposed, fragile, or “found out” despite competence
Relief comes from striving, improving, or proving worth—temporarily easing discomfort while reinforcing the sense that adequacy must be earned.
Show Opt-Out patterns
- Overpreparing, overworking, or perfectionistic effort
- Seeking reassurance, validation, or external approval
- Avoiding situations where performance might be judged
- Self-criticism used as motivation ("pushing myself harder")
- Difficulty receiving praise without discounting it
This belief doesn’t sound dramatic when it shows up in your mind.
It sounds normal. Familiar. Safe, even. But underneath, it shapes how you show up in relationships, careers, parenting — and how much self-worth you’re allowed to feel.
What It Sounds Like Internally:
- “I’m not doing enough.”
- “They probably regret choosing me.”
- “If I mess this up, everyone will know I’m not actually qualified.”
Where It Shows Up:
- Overfunctioning in high-pressure environments
- Perfectionism that never feels finished
- Avoiding vulnerability, asking for help, or taking up space
- Feeling like success is accidental — or temporary
What It Can Lead To:
Unchecked, this belief often evolves into:
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What Therapy Targets:
We don’t “correct” this belief. We help your nervous system stop flagging success, praise, and stillness as threats.
Through Pattern Reconditioning, we remap your response to worth — from fear and avoidance, to confidence and calm.
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