This belief doesn’t always feel like shame. Sometimes it feels like secrecy, overcompensation, or silence.
“I Am Flawed” is the quiet sense that something is inherently wrong with you — not in your behaviour, but in your being. It forms in environments where mistakes, emotions, or differences were met with criticism or shame, and it leaves you constantly scanning for what’s “off” about yourself.
What It Sounds Like Internally:
- “I’m not like everyone else — in a bad way.”
- “They’ll see through me eventually.”
- “There’s something broken in me I can’t fix.”
Where It Shows Up:
- Reluctance to open up or be fully seen
- Chronic self-editing in relationships or at work
- Feeling like you have to earn belonging
- Overcompensating with perfectionism or performance
What It Can Lead To:
Unchecked, this belief often evolves into:
- “If I’m not perfect, I’ll be rejected.”
- “If I hide my flaws well enough, I’ll be accepted.”
- “I’ll never be whole — just better at hiding the cracks.”
Want to Dive Deeper into the “I Am Flawed” Pattern?
Discover related beliefs, emotional triggers, and how therapy can help you recondition this deep-rooted belief for real change.
What Therapy Targets:
We don’t aim to fix you — we recondition the belief that you need fixing.
Through Pattern Reconditioning, therapy helps you untangle identity from shame. We help your nervous system stop flagging visibility and vulnerability as threats — so you can show up, fully, without fearing the cost.
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