This belief doesn’t always shout — sometimes, it whispers.
It’s the sting of not being chosen. The silence in a group chat. The subtle shift when others connect and you feel outside the circle.

“I Am Excluded” says: There’s a place — but not for me.

It frames belonging as conditional, and often unreachable.


What It Sounds Like Internally:

  • “They didn’t mean to leave me out… but they did.”
  • “I always feel like the extra one.”
  • “I’m not part of the inner circle — I never am.”

Where It Shows Up:

  • Constant comparison in social or professional settings
  • Withdrawing before rejection can happen
  • Hypervigilance to signs that you’re being left out
  • Reluctance to initiate connection due to assumed rejection

What It Can Lead To:

If unaddressed, this belief tends to spiral into:

  • “They’re better off without me.”
  • “If I’m not explicitly invited, I’m not wanted.”
  • “I’ll avoid groups — that way I can’t be excluded.”

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What Therapy Targets:

We don’t just help you unpack old social wounds.
We target the underlying anticipatory threat loop — the nervous system response that says connection = danger.

Through Pattern Reconditioning, therapy helps shift your internal narrative from outsider to included — without needing constant reassurance.

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