Where this belief fits
Schema Domain: Disconnection & Rejection
Lifetrap: Defectiveness / Shame
Non-Nurturing Elements™ (Precursors):
How this belief keeps repeating:
Evidence Pile
When this belief is active, the mind often points to repeated negative outcomes or “bad luck” as evidence that things tend to go wrong regardless of effort.
Show common “proof” items
- Similar problems repeating across different situations
- Effort not leading to expected improvement
- Positive momentum followed by sudden setbacks
- Comparing oneself to others who seem to progress more easily
- Interpreting coincidence as pattern (“this always happens to me”)
- Feeling singled out by circumstances
Holding the expectation that things will go wrong can quietly drain motivation and emotional capacity, creating a sense of heaviness or resignation over time.
Show common signals
- Emotional fatigue or resignation
- Reduced enthusiasm or initiative
- Feeling stuck despite effort
- Difficulty sustaining hope
- Sense of inevitability or stagnation
- Detachment from future planning
When the strain becomes too much, the system may release by disengaging from effort or lowering expectations to avoid repeated disappointment.
Show Opt-Out patterns
- Withdrawing effort prematurely
- Not fully committing to opportunities
- Avoiding long-term planning
- Self-sabotage framed as “why bother”
- Passivity in decision-making
- Cynicism or emotional detachment
This belief doesn’t sound like logic — it sounds like fate.
“I Am Cursed” doesn’t just say bad things happen. It says they happen to you, because of you. Not because of chance, but because something is wrong with your very existence.
What It Sounds Like Internally:
- “Things always fall apart — no matter what I do.”
- “It’s like the universe is against me.”
- “Something about me just attracts disaster.”
Where It Shows Up:
- Expecting the worst even during calm periods
- Sabotaging moments of peace or success
- Believing pain is inevitable or deserved
- Attributing setbacks to bad luck or brokenness
What It Can Lead To:
Unchecked, this belief often evolves into:
- “Even when things go well, I’m waiting for the punishment.”
- “Why bother trying — I already know how this ends.”
- “Any joy I feel will be taken from me.”
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