You don’t feel human.
Not really. Not like everyone else seems to. Whether it’s a crowded room or a quiet conversation, there’s a constant filter between you and the rest of the world — like you’re always on the outside, looking in.
You might act the part. You might mask well. But deep down, there’s a core feeling that you are somehow different, wrong, or not built the same — and that no one can ever truly get you. That belief doesn’t just cause disconnection. It isolates your identity, and over time, can erode your ability to trust relationships, rest in belonging, or even believe you’re meant to exist here.
What It Sounds Like Internally:
- “I’m too weird for people to understand.”
- “I don’t know how to be normal.”
- “I feel like an outsider — even with people I care about.”
- “No one gets me.”
- “I just… don’t belong here.”
Where It Shows Up:
- Chronic social masking or camouflaging (especially in neurodivergent adults)
- Difficulty forming or maintaining close friendships or romantic bonds
- Feeling “othered” in both professional and personal settings
- Intellectualizing or dissociating from emotional experiences
- Resisting help or support — because “they wouldn’t understand anyway”
What It Can Lead To:
- Persistent loneliness and isolation
- Aversion to vulnerability or intimacy
- Disconnection from your own identity, emotions, or culture
- Low self-worth disguised as hyper-independence
- Anxiety in group settings, performance roles, or high-expectation environments
Want to Dive Deeper into the “I Am An Alien” Pattern?
Discover related beliefs, emotional triggers, and how therapy can help you recondition this deep-rooted belief for real change.
What Therapy Targets:
In Identity-Level Therapy, we trace this belief back to early misattunement, exclusion, or chronic comparison — experiences that taught your nervous system to treat belonging as unsafe or unavailable.
Pattern Reconditioning helps identify the internalized rules that formed around this belief (“Don’t be yourself, it’s too risky”) and replaces them with a grounded, updated sense of identity that is capable of connecting without erasing itself to do so.
Clients often report feeling like they’ve “come home to themselves” for the first time — not because they changed who they are, but because they finally stopped hiding it.
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