This belief doesn’t show up as villainy.
It shows up as over-apologizing.
As hiding your real opinions.
As assuming you’re the one in the wrong — even when you’re not.
“I Am A Bad Person” isn’t about what you do.
It’s about who you believe you are underneath it all.
What It Sounds Like Internally:
- “I don’t deserve forgiveness.”
- “If they really knew me, they’d leave.”
- “I’m inherently flawed — I just hide it well.”
Where It Shows Up:
- Chronic guilt or over-responsibility
- Self-sabotage in relationships or success
- Avoiding vulnerability out of fear of being “exposed”
- Difficulty receiving praise or feeling truly seen
What It Can Lead To:
Unchecked, this belief often mutates into:
- “If I’m not perfect, I’m dangerous.”
- “If I succeed, I’ll hurt people.”
- “If I let them in, they’ll hate what they find.”
Want to Dive Deeper into the “I Am a Bad Person” Pattern?
Discover related beliefs, emotional triggers, and how therapy can help you recondition this deep-rooted belief for real change.
What Therapy Targets:
We don’t try to “justify” your goodness.
We recondition the part of your brain that sees connection, softness, or success as risky.
Pattern Reconditioning helps untangle shame from identity — and replaces fear with regulated confidence.
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