Parental Absence or Inconsistent Availability

A developmental environment where a primary caregiver was physically or emotionally unavailable in an unpredictable or inconsistent way. This may include frequent absences, emotional withdrawal, competing demands, or fluctuating responsiveness. Over time, the child may struggle to rely on others, feel uncertain about support, or stay in a heightened state of vigilance around connection—never quite knowing when care will be present or disappear.

“I Am Unimportant”

It doesn’t scream. It simmers — the feeling that your needs don’t count, your voice is optional, and…

“I Don’t Exist”

This belief isn’t just about being ignored — it’s about disappearing from your own life. It fuels emotional…

“I Am Unappreciated”

You give. You show up. You sacrifice. But it feels like no one notices. The belief “I Am…

“I Am In Danger”

Even when everything’s quiet, your body stays braced. The belief “I Am In Danger” forms in environments where…

“I Am Helpless”

Believing “I Am Helpless” often stems from environments where autonomy or capability was undermined. This core belief can…

“I Am Alone”

This belief isn’t just about solitude — it’s about not being able to trust connection. ‘I Am Alone’…