Conditional Approval or Achievement-Based Worth
A relational pattern where care, attention, or acceptance were experienced as contingent on performance, success, or meeting external expectations. Approval may have been offered more consistently when the child achieved, behaved “well,” or avoided disappointment, and less available during struggle, rest, or emotional need. Over time, this can shape an internal rule that worth must be earned rather than assumed, leading to chronic self-monitoring, pressure to perform, and difficulty feeling valued without producing results.
“I Am Mediocre”
Even when effort is high or outcomes are solid, this belief whispers that it’s not enough. “I Am…
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“I Am Useless”
The belief I Am Useless convinces individuals that they bring no real value — not to others, not…
“I Am Not Valued”
This belief tells you that your worth is conditional — only granted when you’re useful, impressive, or needed.…
“I Am Inadequate”
Feeling like you’re never enough? The belief “I Am Inadequate” often drives impostor syndrome, perfectionism, and chronic self-doubt.…
“I Am Entitled”
This belief creates a covert insecurity masked by overconfidence or unrealistic expectations. “I Am Entitled” can block healthy…
“I Am Falling Behind”
The belief “I Am Falling Behind” shows up as anxiety around progress, panic over timelines, and shame when…
