Unpredictable Standards or Moving Goalposts

Expectations changed without warning; success criteria were unclear, inconsistent, or retroactively applied.

“I Am Incapable”

The belief “I Am Incapable” keeps you from trusting your ability to handle life. It often forms in…

“I Am In The Wrong Place”

You’re present—but not at home. The belief “I Am In The Wrong Place” forms when connection feels unsafe…

“I Am Powerless”

The belief “I Am Powerless” often forms in environments where autonomy was suppressed and safety depended on submission.…

“I Am Not in Control”

When “I Am Not In Control” is running the show, everything feels like too much. You either grip…

“I Am Cursed”

It’s not just bad luck—it feels personal. The belief “I Am Cursed” makes every setback feel inevitable, every…

“I Cannot Succeed”

You don’t just fear failure—you expect it. The belief “I Cannot Succeed” keeps you playing small, stuck in…