Chronic Criticism or Unrelenting Standards

A developmental environment where approval, safety, or connection depended on meeting consistently high, shifting, or perfectionistic expectations. Feedback may have focused more on mistakes than effort, or on what was lacking rather than what was sufficient. Over time, this can shape patterns of self-criticism, fear of failure, difficulty resting or feeling “done,” and a belief that worth must be earned through performance rather than inherent.

“I Am Not Valued”

This belief tells you that your worth is conditional — only granted when you’re useful, impressive, or needed.…

“I Am Fragile”

This belief creates a constant fear of falling apart under stress. Even small challenges feel like too much.…

“I Am Inadequate”

Feeling like you’re never enough? The belief “I Am Inadequate” often drives impostor syndrome, perfectionism, and chronic self-doubt.…

“I Am Unworthy”

When you feel unworthy, nothing ever feels earned. This belief fuels overfunctioning, self-neglect, and guilt around rest, care,…

“I Am Permanently Damaged”

“I Am Permanently Damaged” is a core belief that often emerges after traumatic or deeply invalidating experiences. It…

“I Am Defective”

“I Am Defective” is a deep-rooted core belief that can leave a person constantly scanning for signs that…