Emotional Invalidation (Distinct from criticism)
A developmental environment where a person’s internal emotional experiences were dismissed, minimized, misunderstood, or treated as inappropriate, exaggerated, or inconvenient. Rather than being corrected or criticized for behaviour, emotions themselves may have been ignored, reframed, or denied (e.g., being told one “shouldn’t feel that way”). Over time, this can shape difficulty identifying or trusting one’s emotions, reliance on external cues to determine how one “should” feel, and a sense that internal experiences are unreliable or unacceptable.
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